by the Provident Woman | December 30th, 2009
Two months ago, Clint and I found out that we were pregnant with our fourth baby. Yeah! Clint has been wanting another for a while (he has this theory that our family of five should be six as long as we have an uneven number of boys and girls…which means if we have a boy, then we’ll have 2 boys and 2 girls, so we would need then to strive for a family of seven, naturally) and as I’ve started watching an infant in my childcare part-time, those motherly caring instincts have been waving in full. I love children, even if they can’t keep out of the cookie jar, but you know that feeling you get when you hold a little baby? It’s contagious! The day we passively thought about having another little one, my husband started pointing out all of the pregnant women…at least those he thought were. And yes, they’re everywhere! You really notice it when you have baby on the mind.
We’ve had a hard time with this pregnancy and found out yesterday it was just not meant to be for this little one. We were prepared. I made it to the end of my first trimester but within a week of finding out we were pregnant we knew something wasn’t right.
That’s tough. Hugs to both of you, and how lovely that you have your 3 kiddies to help you through.
So sorry to hear about your loss. And no matter what people say, it is a true loss. Feel free to grieve and work it out. You sound like you’re doing a good job with accepting it. I just wanted to give you permission to be sad if you need it. I sure did–twice over.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a baby too and even though you can look on the bright side, it’s still heartbreaking. Thinking of you.
I am so sorry for your loss. We lost 2 babies when we were trying for Amelia. It’s tough, but it sounds like you have the right perspective. For me, my healing came full circle when we finally had a healthy baby.
That is such a difficult thing, but it sounds like you are trusting Providence.
I’m so sorry for your loss….my thoughts are with you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
oh sweetheart… thank you for sharing this so that i can know how to pray for you. i feel that even being able to be pregnant for a small amount of time with a new little one is a blessing. all of the hopes and love that comes about even in the earliest stages of his/her life are without a doubt worthy of being grieved over and cherished.
We, too, are trying for our fourth. It’s taking much longer than it did with the other three, and it can be frustrating. More for the women than for the men, since they’re happy to continue “trying”. Not to belittle their feelings, of course. But since it’s our bodies, we tend to feel it more.
Best of luck for you and your family in the New Year,
Cindy
I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarrage. They are rough on the mind and body. Sending you uplifting thoughts. ((hugs))
Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your little one. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers.
Sending prayers and good thoughts your way. And tell your husband, no I’m not pregnant, but thanks for asking when I’m due.
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry for the loss. I love your beautiful attitude and your right it will happen if it is meant to be. I experienced two miscarriages and a tubal pregnancy. I am blessed with two beautifully grown children who have bestowed eight lovely grandkiddos into our family. My heart and prayers are with you my dear.
Have a wonderfully blessed New Year and may God bless Ya’ll.
BTW: MEN…..’nuff said! Heeeheeehe~~~
Sending blessings for a bright and happy 2010,
Joolz
It is so hard to lose a little one. thoughts are with you and good luck with adding to your special family.
Very sad. I know you said not to be sad for you, but we are encouraged (dare I say “commanded”) to carry each other’s burdens. Gal. 6:2. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, and I pray you will continue to find joy in your other kids!
Well good luck this next year Mary. Sometimes women are super fertile after a loss, let’s hope that’s your luck. Jeremy was definitely sad this time to miss out on our normal however many number of months of “trying”
Thinking about you guys. We love you!!
I’ve had several miscarriages and even had a son who died just two hours after birth but I also have six kids here in this world, so when I tell you to spend some time grieving, I know what I’m talking about. You should name this baby so you don’t have to refer to it as “the baby we lost”, make this baby a part of your family…always, it will help heal your soul, and give your children a gift, knowing they have someone at their level in Heaven. Every child has a purpose, as did this sweet baby, perhaps to bring your family closer, I can’t tell you that, but be thankful. I will pray for you tonight at Mass, knowing Jesus will give you the grace you need to go through this very sad time. Peace to you and your family.
I’m sorry for your loss. I know the pain of losing a baby and it’s got to be extra hard around the holidays. You sound positive but remember to give yourself time to grieve the baby you had for a little while. Hugs to you all!
God Bless you and your family.
I am sorry for your loss.
(hugs) and so very sorry. I hope you have a wonderful 2010.
I’m so behind on my blog reading, and just saw this today. I’m so sorry. I’ll be praying for you and your family.
We just got our new computer so I am playing catch up on blog reading… Two years ago I had a miscarriage, it was our first pregnancy. One week we had an ultrasound with a heartbeat, the next there was nothing on the screen (that I could see.) It is a hard experience, and my thoughts and prayers are with you. You have such a great attitude about it though which will carry you through. I am sure you have cried about it though, as you should – do not hold the tears back.