by Clint | January 2nd, 2010
Mary, I love you! You are stronger than you will ever know and I am glad that we can spend an eternity supporting one another. You are my greatest blessing and love, and while I am not sure others are interested (but because you asked), I’ll share my thoughts of the past week, which seem heavy in comparison with you’re blogs common vibrance. I hope you and our guests will forgive my reflections. Many couples and individuals work through the emotions of a miscarriage, and even kind words seem too distant to truly comfort the feeling of loss, but I trust in the Savior and know that we will be okay and likely blessed with another little one in the future.
I cannot adequately know the way a loss of our baby has felt for you. I have preferred to comfort you than to talk about my seemingly insignificant worries. I am here for you…
A line. Three times before a line told us that we were expecting. That line has always brought excitement and anticipation. “I can’t wait until he is born!” I always exclaim and you, “You mean she, right?”
A heartbeat. Three times before a heartbeat resounded within the softly lit room of the doctor’s office and you smiled. I smiled. “Lord, please bless that this baby will be strong and healthy.”
Silence. I have never heard silence before. You started to cry. I held your hand. “I love you. It’s going to be okay.” We missed it…I wish we knew when our baby’s life left your womb. I felt helpless. What can I do to comfort a loss that so silently passed away? Two and a half months and I hadn’t yet spoken to the baby.
To our baby. I loved you. Mommy loved you. Thank you for your heartbeat. May we meet you in heaven, that we might hold you and say, “We love you and have missed you.”
What a sweet, supportive husband and daddy. Continued prayers for peace and healing.
That was very healing – not only to read but to realize that people often forget about the husband’s perspective and that he is grieving, too. That he can reach out and support yo like this in his own time of grief. Well wow. Words evade me but you both have a love that shines like a beacon and it is a blessing to see and have it shared with the rest of us in the e-world.
i’m in tears over here. you are both in my thoughts and prayers today.
Thank you for being so open and vulnerable in your grief. Too often people try to shove that away. Thank you for also displaying the support and teamwork God intends in marriage. And may God continue to bless your family.
That brought tears to my eyes. You are so blessed to have such a loving and supportive husband.
For some reason the situations that matter most or hurt the most are the most difficult to discuss and often even harder with each other. Not wanting to create more pain for them & well intended comments can bring us to our knees. What a blessing to have a husband to be there…for the times you need to hold each other.
Where did you learn to be a husband like that? You learned well. I am so sorry for the loss you are feeling right now. I know there is nothing to be said right now that helps. I think you said it so well.
What a beautiful man you are. Mary is blessed to have a partner who is so sensitive at this sad time in your lives.
Joolz
Very powerful. Clint’s reflections of the past week were touching. Be well and heal together…my thoughts are with you all.
So sorry to hear about your loss. It’s beautiful to see a couple’s support for each other in times like these. May you continue to heal together in the days, weeks, months, and years to come.
What a magical moment in such a tragic situation. I know that your faith will carry you through and by reading this reflection I know that the situation has cemented your love for one another even more. With every obstacle we grow closer if we are willing to be honest and communicate. What a sweet way for a husband to be so open about this. Thank you for showing us all the real, deep love exists.
Sorry for your loss, God Bless your family.
I’m very sorry to hear of your loss and pray that God’s love will provide shelter and comfort from your pain.
Mindy
Truly sorry for your loss. I’ve never miscarried so do not know the full impact of feelings. But I do know it as a grandmother. Our eldest has lost 5. We just got news from them yesterday that they are in the process of Foster Care Adoption in the state they live. They are looking to the Lord as this being His way for them to raise children.
Mary & Clint I am so glad I got to meet you at Ree Drummond’s book signing. It was so nice to put a face & voice with your blog.
Happy New Year and may the Lord give you the comfort you need in the days ahead.
Pamela
Dear Mary,
I just found out about this last night from Clay. I’m so sorry. We lost our 4th little one too and it was so very sad and painful and exhausting. It’s such an emotional drain and yet your body bounces back before you’re ready to be normal. I’m praying for you and Clint…it’s so much easier when you have a supportive and loving husband to watch after you and you have that.
God Bless.
Love and healing to your family. <3